Wednesday, September 5, 2012

The Strength of a Warrior

The Strength of a Warrior

Do you know what that means? Can the average person say they do?
In your everyday life can you say that you have experienced what it truly means to be in today's
society - A WARRIOR ?

I think that we all have a conception of what a real warrior is supposed to be, but when you get right
down to it do you label someone based on things that they have done, or is it maybe something a
little more "vague" or maybe I should use the term - overlooked?

Well in this post I would like to render some of what that has meant to me, and point out a few examples
of people that have not only embodied what today's normal warrior looks like but have in some way made
a difference in my own life.

kick,Kick,KICK!- again,again,AGAIN....his voice resonating against the walls.
Circling around me hands waving about in a crazy yet controlled , keeping me focused, not giving me a
second to breath ; don't think , only react! React!! Kick, move, again, again...

I'm thinking back to a moment in my life of extreme training like I had seldom made the decision to experience till then.
The person : A close personal friend of mine who knows all to well the meaning of sacrifice.

The place   : One of my old Martial Art schools.

The situation: Part of my prepping time that I spent getting ready for my Black Belt test.
  1. Now to some of you that may not mean a lot... but for myself its just one of the things that I remember like it was yesterday that is still able to drive me.
I have said many times that I believe everything revolves around Martial Arts in life....
Kinda like the spirits of past warriors reside in everything, watching over our struggles.
Ever had something tough come up on you and you still found a way to make it through and you didn't give up?
That's called Indomitable Spirit.
It means your incapable of being defeated. That you won't let anyone get in your head or your way if it means holding you back.
Oh wait, that is one of "Karate's" tenants. Yep,definitely part of Martial Arts.

Sometimes it seems like what we want is hardest to achieve even though we have the "want" or that
something that is inside us all, the strength of a warrior.
I have another friend of mine that has been through a lot physically including surgery as well as a lot
of set backs but if anyone could inspire you it would be him.He posts on our FB site " Southern Heat (decent into madness) .
You should check it out, he will give you some good inspiration from time to time. That's something that we
all need, some more than others.
Here lately I have had the good luck and honor to run across a few people that are as much inspiring as
they are interesting. I always enjoy following others that have the same struggles that we all do and have
had but keep on doing there best not to give up. Remember- just show up .
Myself I struggle to find a good balance between life and so many other things but just remember -the Strength of a Warrior is of one that keeps pushing forward, keeps learning, and to realize that you are
strong enough. You can do it. You have indomitable have the Strength of a Warrior.

Saturday, August 4, 2012

The youth = The you listen?

The Art of Listening

I have recently had some small awakenings about several things and thought I would share some of these with you.
I thought for this blog as a header a picture of the beloved Dalai Lama with the children would be a good visual for what I'm about to share.
I have done some studying on him and some of his teachings along with my ongoing studies and one of the most outstanding things that you will always notice is not only how happy he truly is,but how much he not only cares for others and especially the look that crosses his face when he is with the young ones.
That is a look that most people cannot fake no matter how hard you try.....

Which brings me to my point.....
In the past couple of years especially I have spent alot of time with a lot of younger guys of all different ages,
and the one thing I have found in common with all of them is that they all just want someone to pay them
attention to what they have to say, to what is going thru their mind.
I guess you could say I am slowly becoming a Bodhisttvas of some sort, an awakened being....
I spent alot of my time as a martial arts instructor and had the privilege to spend alot of time with most all these kids.

I have always spent a lot of time off and on with youth from several different countries and one thing that doesn't change is the way they are all built.They have the same type of worry's and wants just like the ones here in America. Now when I used the term "awakened" it is only to first give you the definition ,but also to show that I am hopefully learning from some of my life experiences.
I remember years ago when I was coming up in the ranks in Tae Kwon Do,I had the privilege of teaching a teenager that was not only talented but very much had the drive and want to get ahead of all the others in the school and everything about her showed that.
As some time went by and she excelled more and more she became repeatedly  agitated and approach me many times wondering why she was being held back when she could do so much more.....
Well after many times of me working with her and having conversations I found out that also she was having things happen in her life that she was struggling with.She did move on from her training but it seems after it all at least being there to the best of my abilities did help and she to this day is doing well.

I started out young myself working around and with a group at different times so it seems listening to others seems to be something that I've had the fortune to be able to do and I've learned that if you are willing to try to be there when needed that a situation will present itself sooner or later.
Second case in point, I've had a young person in my life that has been thru an awful lot in theirs but still is able to come thru it all with a smile on their face.Having God in their life would be a main reason for that.
That is one thing that I have seen over the years is that first of all the ones that have that connection somehow to start with are able to make so much more sense out of things.This teen is a good testament to that.
That doesn't mean that life gets easier at any time but what I recently mention a couple of times and told a friend of mine is that contrary to popular opinion,God does not say he wont put more on you than you can handle,he says he will walk side by side thru it with you
And as I have experienced lots of the times I think he is doing a lot of carrying; we just don't always notice the single set of footprints. And yes I do realize you guys how hard it is to see them most of the times.

Guys,I would have to say some of the best experiences I have had has been when I have spent time with young people and thinking back I still understand why. As parents I think that sometimes we tend to let life and everyday activities take a little to much president over our actions and decisions where are young people are concerned.I'm like so many others out there, I'm trying to learn what are the best things to do for my own daughter, I haven't always done that but with trial and error and a lot of prayer I will do my best by actually trying, not by fooling myself that they will be ok. Guys our young people really are the future, they are the people in just a few years that will be on the road driving, at the stores spending there money beside us, sitting with us at Church, and training side by side sometimes sweating blood and tears with us.....
Young people really are can be awesome especially our on kids( YOUR KIDS ) , they love music most of which I do still listen to , they love to go and do and want to be part of so much out there, if they are just given a chance.
Adults just remember those guys do have a lot to say and yes opinions and even advice.
If you want to understand them better maybe you should spend a little more time listening to what they have to say, sometimes they are in pain and need some relief....
other times they just haven't had a lot interaction and just need to feel your presence next to them.
The main thing I've found is that yes, they will turn to us and we need our best when possible to show them what it means to actually have someone listen.
They love to have fun, can seem like they are a lot to handle but are amazing when given a chance to shine.Maybe some of us need to light the way for them a little more and not let our own downfalls dictate whether or not we give that extra we think we don't have.
Our young people are awesome! Lets try when we can to let know we really do think so.You may be the only person that young one has , as for myself , like one of my favorite Pastors recently told me,give what you can, but sometimes you have slow down , I will try to make sure I'm always able to slow down with a young one when needed.If you don't give them something they need, one day they might not need you anymore......
Go do some listening today- and tomorrow will be worth it.

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Monday, June 18, 2012

Yin and Yang of Life....and what I'm doing about mine.

You know as time passes for all of us one thing remains true,
certain people and situations in our lives tend to not change or change very much even in the event
of changes on they're side.

Have you ever stopped to think about the main person or persons in your life that seem to bring
on or always be apart of the "Yin" side of your life?
Maybe its not just a person but a whole area or section that these people seem to be attracted to
or be a part of.

In the Martial Arts there has always been a connection between the symbols of the Yin and the Yang.
Sometimes that symbol has been used to represent "Karate" as its called ,but its true meaning has to do
with Good vs. Evil as well as in every good there is a little evil and for every evil there there contains
an amount of good, simply put it takes both to have balance in all things.

The reason I start this out this way is to set the tone for the chain of thought I wish for you to have as you read this.
The point to all this is that we go thru life and things happen to us sometimes bad sometimes good but
the one thing for sure is that we have all been given a path to take .
Ever found yourself wondering what yours is? Life is all about perception , sometimes the way we see
things is not always the way it truly is.
Case in point- I remember when I was little for some reason I did not realize what an actual banana
tree was, so when I found out that we were going over seas and after my mom had given me a little
info on some of the big move , me and my imagination started to work overtime! Proof yet again that
with a little imagination so many things are possible.....
I saw in my mind this awesome layout of an estate with all the coolest things that a boy could ever
dream up, with trees everywhere and all the possible clubs and tree houses I would build,
but there was this one awesome tree, the "banana" tree that I would attach my rope from and be
propelled from the tree to my second story window of my room, how cool would that be?
It was like the scene out of "Home Alone".
Needless to say (yes I'm going to anyway) when I actually got there and saw one up close and personal
I had my "perception" totally changed.

I came to realize that my thoughts of awsomeness would never come to pass.
Very soon though I got ok cause there really was a type of estate!

But back to my point...
I have had this very conversation with a couple of people and come to the conclusion that if you want
your life to be more productive then you have to help make it that way.
Sometimes you have to try to get rid of the extra Yin in your life so you can make room for more
Yang, and maybe for the reverse as well , I guess it could depend on your point of view.
When I first started to study Bruce Lee's works I read his words on taking and using the things that in each art you study and getting rid of the stuff that doesn't work for you.
Life is the same.
What does this mean? Well I think each person will have to figure that out for themselves but what I
have found is that if there are things in your life that suck the life out of you or just always seem to cause
some form of drama have you always noticed it seems to always be the same people or places that
put you in that position?
What I found is that sometimes we have to cut out the ones that seem to have that effect on your lives.
I'll let you come to the conclusion of what parts of your life you would like to change for the better.
Then again you may have a God given life of blessings and wonders and don't have any need for
changes in your life but for most of us we are an ongoing training session! 
 So if you think maybe you have a little to much Yin in your life then maybe its time for you to start
putting more Yang in its place!.....