|The Art of Listening|
I thought for this blog as a header a picture of the beloved Dalai Lama with the children would be a good visual for what I'm about to share.
I have done some studying on him and some of his teachings along with my ongoing studies and one of the most outstanding things that you will always notice is not only how happy he truly is,but how much he not only cares for others and especially the look that crosses his face when he is with the young ones.
That is a look that most people cannot fake no matter how hard you try.....
Which brings me to my point.....
In the past couple of years especially I have spent alot of time with a lot of younger guys of all different ages,
and the one thing I have found in common with all of them is that they all just want someone to pay them
attention to what they have to say, to what is going thru their mind.
I guess you could say I am slowly becoming a Bodhisttvas of some sort, an awakened being....
I spent alot of my time as a martial arts instructor and had the privilege to spend alot of time with most all these kids.
I have always spent a lot of time off and on with youth from several different countries and one thing that doesn't change is the way they are all built.They have the same type of worry's and wants just like the ones here in America. Now when I used the term "awakened" it is only to first give you the definition ,but also to show that I am hopefully learning from some of my life experiences.
I remember years ago when I was coming up in the ranks in Tae Kwon Do,I had the privilege of teaching a teenager that was not only talented but very much had the drive and want to get ahead of all the others in the school and everything about her showed that.
As some time went by and she excelled more and more she became repeatedly agitated and approach me many times wondering why she was being held back when she could do so much more.....
Well after many times of me working with her and having conversations I found out that also she was having things happen in her life that she was struggling with.She did move on from her training but it seems after it all at least being there to the best of my abilities did help and she to this day is doing well.
I started out young myself working around and with a group at different times so it seems listening to others seems to be something that I've had the fortune to be able to do and I've learned that if you are willing to try to be there when needed that a situation will present itself sooner or later.
Second case in point, I've had a young person in my life that has been thru an awful lot in theirs but still is able to come thru it all with a smile on their face.Having God in their life would be a main reason for that.
That is one thing that I have seen over the years is that first of all the ones that have that connection somehow to start with are able to make so much more sense out of things.This teen is a good testament to that.
That doesn't mean that life gets easier at any time but what I recently mention a couple of times and told a friend of mine is that contrary to popular opinion,God does not say he wont put more on you than you can handle,he says he will walk side by side thru it with you.
And as I have experienced lots of the times I think he is doing a lot of carrying; we just don't always notice the single set of footprints. And yes I do realize you guys how hard it is to see them most of the times.
Guys,I would have to say some of the best experiences I have had has been when I have spent time with young people and thinking back I still understand why. As parents I think that sometimes we tend to let life and everyday activities take a little to much president over our actions and decisions where are young people are concerned.I'm like so many others out there, I'm trying to learn what are the best things to do for my own daughter, I haven't always done that but with trial and error and a lot of prayer I will do my best by actually trying, not by fooling myself that they will be ok. Guys our young people really are the future, they are the people in just a few years that will be on the road driving, at the stores spending there money beside us, sitting with us at Church, and training side by side sometimes sweating blood and tears with us.....
Young people really are can be awesome especially our on kids( YOUR KIDS ) , they love music most of which I do still listen to , they love to go and do and want to be part of so much out there, if they are just given a chance.
Adults just remember those guys do have a lot to say and yes opinions and even advice.
If you want to understand them better maybe you should spend a little more time listening to what they have to say, sometimes they are in pain and need some relief....
other times they just haven't had a lot interaction and just need to feel your presence next to them.
The main thing I've found is that yes, they will turn to us and we need our best when possible to show them what it means to actually have someone listen.
They love to have fun, can seem like they are a lot to handle but are amazing when given a chance to shine.Maybe some of us need to light the way for them a little more and not let our own downfalls dictate whether or not we give that extra we think we don't have.
Our young people are awesome! Lets try when we can to let know we really do think so.You may be the only person that young one has , as for myself , like one of my favorite Pastors recently told me,give what you can, but sometimes you have slow down , I will try to make sure I'm always able to slow down with a young one when needed.If you don't give them something they need, one day they might not need you anymore......
Go do some listening today- and tomorrow too..it will be worth it.